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Posted by deValois, at 05:02 on Sun, Sep 7th

The way I avoid the 'Ex-factor"? Not getting into relationships. It's such a shame, but
practically every gay relationship I have ever witnessed have all seemed so frivolous. Gays are
the most capricious people in the world I think. Why waste my time, and why should I waste your
time, when it seems the gay curse is to hop around from relationship to relationship. Let's
just all have fun and not be tied down by f****** labels. I know what you're thinking, I'm
embittered, and don't let anyone in...am I right? Untrue. I prefer the bachelorette lifestyle.
Call it being selfish, but it certainly eliminates the hassles of having to deal with conniving
ex-broads. Travel the world, paint a picture, enjoy your friends, play soccer...who needs
girlfriends and exes?

Posted by Kiama, at 21:11 on Sat, Sep 6th

I broke up with my 1st & only gf back in May 2005. She was paranoid that I was seeing someone
even though I spent 24/7 with her. She wanted me to get pregnant to prove I loved her and I
wasn't ready but she was a bit of a um well psycho is really the only word I know for it. After
months of being bullied I ended up taking an overdose. She knew exactly what to do as she had
been rushed into hospital many times for self harming. The next day I decided I loved myself
and her too much to let things carry on this way. She reminded me that I said I'd never give up
on her and I told her I wasn't giving up on her I was giving up on 'us'. 4 months later she
texts me, then rings, she has since contacted me many times mostly either telling me she wants
me, or just checking what I'm up to or her favourite - telling me she is pregnant. I was with
her for a year and afterwards got with someone else for 3 years she never stopped causing
problems and eventually we moved out of the area a year ago. Last week I had a text from her
tellling that her baby is due on my next birthday(apparently this time she really is pregnant
but why the hell do I need to know). I did love her very very much she was my 1st gf and will
always have a place in my past - but thats exactly what it is the past.

Posted by Dusty, at 19:13 on Sun, Jul 27th

Me and my partner split up almost two years ago now because i was sick of being the bit on the
side as they already had a girfriend. I know i should have expected it to end badly and really
shouldn't have got involved in the first place but i was very naive back then and was so
convinced i was in love. i stopped eating and began being constantly sick but i couldn't stop
myself. i went to the doctor only to be diagnosed that there was nothing wrong with me and so i
carried on until i lost about 3 stone. Being naturally tall and slim as it was i looked like a
walking skeleton. i stopped smiling and i couldn't laugh, thinking about my ex only made things
worse. i tried channeling my emotions into something productive but i just couldn't pull myself
together. Then one fine day i bumped into the most beautiful women i had ever seen. she came
and sat by me on the bus and we started talking. sensing something wrong she asked me quite
plainly why i always looked so sad and i don't know why but it just poured out and i told her
everything. it was coming up to my stop and before i got up to go she grabbed my hands with
both of hers and told me i've got to start eating properly again and that everything will be
ok, so oddly enough i said goodbye and not long after i began eating again. i haven't seen her
since but i just want to thank her for that because she really did turn my life around! since
then i have been seeing someone and are really happy with the way things are, and when i look
back on my ex i just think to myself "Why ever did i go there?"

Posted by louise, at 14:22 on Wed, Jul 23rd

I havent read every comment above but here is my opinion on dealing with ex's..
1. never
let them ruin what you find following the relationship with them - dont fall fowl of mind
games, or tears looking for sympathy.
2. loyalty to current gf - dont let your x ridicule
or belittle your new relationship/partner... its mind games
3. An x always wants to know
how you still feel about them.
4. if you cheated, do the right thing, dont be selfish, let
go as you will hurt them more in the long run.
5. dont expect you ex and new gf to be
friends.
6. Your new relationship is where you heart and focus should be or you will get
stuck on the viscious lesbian roundabout so many of us get stuck on! Build for your future and
leave your past where it should be.

I am a very patient and loyal gf but there is only
so much one person can take. I am totally in love with my partner and the only thing that has
ever caused us trouble is her ex. I understand she hurts as she is still in love with my
partner and thats exactly why i have had to finally stand up for my feelings and ask that our
relationship is allowed to continue to flourish and not be held back by the past. Is it selfish
to want your gf to spend a sat night with you and not her ex who has no respect for my partner
and will encourage to drink too much and also have drugs which have been the demise of so many
of her friends realtionships! Oh i best stop now before i write war and peace..

Posted by Jasmin, at 13:15 on Mon, Jul 21st

I think it's a good thing to remain friends with your ex....it's like before the relationship,
although I do understand if someone can't make it [feelings wise].

My ex and I were
dating for only two months, I broke up with her when I knew that this wasn't going to work
out....she thought and still thinks it's wrong and we could've made it work out!

Now,
that's about 5 months ago...I met someone new and dating her, she's awesome. My ex hates me for
that as she found it out and cut off all contact, she told me she can't be without me and can
only be with me as her gf. She will never get over me.....I think it's a shame as she's a great
person but I don't want her to be hurt by my happiness......
Hurting someone hurts as
well...

AFTER 2 months.............so anyways, it's hard but

Posted by Lisa, at 10:53 on Mon, Jul 7th

EC: i dont know how people stay close when they break up, how can someone you were emotionally
tied to, who you were in love with become just a friend? whatever they saw initially in each
other would still be present.

Posted by EC, at 23:40 on Sat, Jul 5th

It seems like most people here who left comments all had some bad experience with exes.
Slightly out of the topic, the last girl that I was interested in is still best friend with her
ex. In fact, they are so close that they still see each other most nights, doing most things
together, and she talked about her a lot when we first met. Is it possible to be that close to
your ex but stay just friends?

Posted by Tasha Williams, at 15:18 on Fri, Jul 4th

Ha ha ha ha kudos to you!. See that's how it goes. what do they expect you to do? put yourself
on a shelf with the pain of the relationship and ask for more when they call to say they're
marring someone else. Who the frig cares. Should you be happy? Hell yeah. everything happens
for a reason. You ended up meeting someone obviously who is better for you. I wish I could have
been a fly on the wall to really see her reaction, when you said I'm already married.
PRICELESS. I was married to a women for 7years, the fool that i am lol. Na it was a good run.
But glad its over. shes now with a new young little hottie and i'm still looking. not for the
reason she has someone, i just want that companionship back in some capacity. it will come, i
just gotta wait. Northern NY say hey cutie. stay strong as always Peace Tasha

Posted by Jen C, at 16:32 on Wed, Jul 2nd

Their are a few ex's i dont speak to but if i am honest.... i still speak to most of them, 2
are best friends of mine and.. my fiancee's i know some might think its wierd but we all just
have a giggle and get on with it, sometimes comments are made but only in gest... funny :0)

Posted by leanne, at 19:56 on Tue, Jul 1st

my x went round bad mouthin me sayin all sorts of shit about me like that I beat her up this
one time I only found out coz a mate told me

Posted by jaime, at 13:46 on Tue, Jul 1st

i dont speak to any of my ex's life is a lot simpler without the ex factor!!!!!

Posted by andrea, at 11:41 on Tue, Jul 1st

my ex has a nack of coming back into my life whenever im happy she must have a little inbuilt
alarm - oh look andrea is happy need to poke my nose in and try and somehow bring her down!

Posted by Laura, at 08:28 on Tue, Jul 1st

My delightful xgf did a similar thing, she left me for a guy and called me a year later to tell
me she was pregnant. I was over the relationship but it still knocked me for six and brought
back all the old feelings. Hope you never have to hear from her again huni xxx

Posted by Cyndy Anderson, at 03:50 on Tue, Jul 1st

I have an ex that refuses to let go! It is now 3 yrs later and she still texts, emails, etc
daily. I never respond, have moved on and have lived with a lady since 6 mos after I broke up
with her.

Posted by celina, at 23:24 on Mon, Jun 30th

My ex was a straight girl so we all know how that went.

Posted by Punkphunk, at 22:39 on Mon, Jun 30th

You should go and when the question comes "does any one have any objections to his wedding?" be
the one to stand up and shout YES I OBJECT SHE IS A BLATENT C**T U CAN DO BETTER....HA

Posted by Lauren, at 22:31 on Mon, Jun 30th

My terrible taste in women is demonstrated by my vastly growing collection of phsyco
ex-girlfriends. One time, one tracked me down the day before my birthday to give me a kitten
birthday card, before having a very public fit in the middle of the bus station about "what a
cunt" she is while I hastily tried to hush her before she suddenly screamed my name
"LAUREN!!"

"....yes?"

Which was clearly the perfect moment for her to smash
her mouth against mine, in a very painful supposed kiss. She then jumped on the bus and I was
left there struck still, and very red.

And I never saw her again.

Apart from
a Tegan and Sara concert. What were the odds?!

Posted by JenB, at 19:29 on Mon, Jun 30th

My ex-gf started a relationship with my best friend a month after we split so I felt like I
lost two people I loved it gets easier though we are friends now. An ex ringing out of the blue
after 4 years to tell me anything less than she has some nasty disease would piss me off!

Posted by cheryl, at 19:17 on Mon, Jun 30th

Toni you should go to the wedding with your wife and be really happy on the day. I would day
she told you because she thought you would be upset hearing it she obviously still has feelings
for you so make sure your the one on her mind when she says I do! Why do people cheat I hate
cheaters!

Posted by janine, at 17:38 on Mon, Jun 30th

I know exactly what "anon" means by not wanting her but not wanting anyone else to have her. My
x was exactly the same she wasn't interested in me until 6 months after we split and I was
totally over her and starting a relationship with someone else. I lost my new gf over her and
will never forgive her for playing those mind games

Posted by kim, at 17:17 on Mon, Jun 30th

lol i love what you wrote. There really shoud be a manual. my ex is like a "curry fart" just
when you think it's finally over....she comes back twice as evil.
please make sure you
have a chapter in the book entitled "psychotic exes" i'm sure i can't be the only person to
have dated a complee nutcase.

Posted by jayne, at 17:09 on Mon, Jun 30th

is there even such thing as a mutual break up?I think x's are x's for a reason and with all the
emotions of being in a relationship I can't see how you can remain friends. I don't see any of
my x's by choice we have mutual friends and the scene is small so I bump into them bit given
the choice I would never see them again.

Posted by anon, at 17:08 on Mon, Jun 30th

My ex finished me on our year anniversary. I moved on.. she now wont leave me alone, telling me
shes misses me. But i know if i went back shed fuck me over again. Im happy in my relationship
now and she cant stand that.. Its the whole she doesnt want me but she doesnt want anyone else
to have me. Then she plays the you where too good for me anyway card. To be honest i told her
at the time if its over thats it no contact. I think its a case of lets change my phone number
and maybe even identity.

Posted by Jen, at 14:44 on Mon, Jun 30th

Jo - I love what you wrote about your ex.

I agree with Elise if someone intentionally
breaks your heart why would you remain friends although I know first hand how hard it can be to
let go! :(

Posted by jo, at 14:22 on Mon, Jun 30th

My girlfriend taught me that kisses dont always mean something and promises can be broken just
as quickly as they are made. For that I taught her that goodbyes really are FOREVER

Posted by elise, at 14:09 on Mon, Jun 30th

i guess if she cheated on you then you have reason to never want to hear from her again but
when people break up and its just the end for no reason other than it is then i think its
different. i think its a big mistake to drift apart from someone who you once had the time of
your life with.

Posted by LYN, at 13:57 on Mon, Jun 30th

all i say is those who hert us dont deserve us.... dont chase them replace them .... and i do
belive nothing is 4ever so enjoy things while there good... i wish the was a school 2 go 2 were
u can learn 2 be a cold heart biatch coz i seem 2 date alot haha xoxox

Posted by GEMZ, at 13:28 on Mon, Jun 30th

WHEN MY X SENT ME A BIRTHDAY CARD A MONTH AFTE WE SPLIT SIGNED BY HER AND HER NEW GF THAT
REALLY FUCKED ME OFF

Posted by karen, at 13:18 on Mon, Jun 30th

if mine called me to tell me she was getting married id hang up....... what a bitch to come
back into your life and try and rake up bad memories

Posted by saz, at 13:02 on Mon, Jun 30th

i dont ever stay in contact with my x's i think even if you are over someone and want them to
be happy a part of you still hurts when you see them move on and be with someone else just my 2
cents

Posted by claire, at 12:52 on Mon, Jun 30th

my ex girlfriend left me to go back to her ex. i only ever hear from her now when things are
bad between them. she called me crying when they had had an argument and her girlfrined threw
her out. she wanted to stay at my place. i told her no chance.

Posted by Danni, at 12:50 on Mon, Jun 30th

I think its sad when you lose contact with someone you that was a big part of your life for
such a long time. I bumped into an old girlfriend of mine in a bar last year and she smiled an
awkward smile and didnt even stop to speak. It made me really sad. Im undecided if your x
fiance called you to be a bitch or to be nice. I would much prefer to hear off someone else if
my last girlfriend had moved on rather than from the horses mouth.

Posted by kerry, at 12:43 on Mon, Jun 30th

i agree with lyn im sure the only reason she contacted you was to rub salt in the wound glad
you moved on though my frosties are still soggy hahahahahaha

Posted by Lysa, at 12:38 on Mon, Jun 30th

Oh man, been there before. Still talk to my ex actually. Sad thing is, I don't have the heart
to shut her out. She calls me when she's having a tough time, even with her new ex's... But
thats just me, I'd rather talk to her then not I guess. But man, a call like that would tick me
off for sure. Atleast she didn't ask you to be in the wedding party.

Posted by alex, at 12:35 on Mon, Jun 30th

toni: i think it was sweet she called to tell you!!!

lisa: my x was the same in my
books the only thing worse than having sex with an x is calling them and begging for it wrong
wrong wrong!!!

Posted by LYN, at 12:27 on Mon, Jun 30th

i think those we have ever loved always come back ... weather its 2 rub more salt into the
wounds... or 2 get back what they once had.... but the reasons you finished will always be
there ... and i dont think u can ever get back what you truely felt when you new it was
love.... you always will love them but the love changes .times a healer ... and karma is a
bitch she loves revenge =) lol... any1 who says the love you then rip ya heart out they didnt
love ya at all... xoxoxo

Posted by lisa, at 12:16 on Mon, Jun 30th

my ex girlfriend used to call me drunk all the time asking for sex

Posted by MK, at 12:07 on Mon, Jun 30th

Haha I remember that!! Did you get an invite to the wedding? xxxxxxx

Posted by anne, at 12:06 on Mon, Jun 30th

my x still comes round to chillax and watch films together although it always seems to end up
with us having sex i have woken up to it now though

Posted by Samantha, at 12:03 on Mon, Jun 30th

I guess I have been pretty lucky with my x girlfriends the worst thing Ive experienced was from
my most recent x and that involved daily text messages telling me that she wants me back and
loves me.